Was Abraham changed by Sarah's death?
'Sarah lived one hundred twenty-seven years; this was the length of Sarah’s life. And Sarah died in Kiriatharba (that is, Hebron) in the land of Canaan; and Abraham went in to mourn for Sarah and to weep for her.' (Genesis 23:1-2)
These verses open a portion of the book of Genesis which, in the Jewish cycle of Torah readings, is known as ‘the life of Sarah’. It is a curious title considering that this Torah portion, extending over two chapters, opens with her death! Already we are being drawn into a fascinating question: how might the biblical stories that follow these verses, occurring after Sarah has died, be revealing of her life?
How might the aftermath of Sarah's death be revealing of her life?
One answer arises in the midrash, the creative storytelling traditions of Judaism. The midrash observes that Sarah’s death occurs just seven verses after one of the most compelling passages in the Bible: the Akedah (Gen.22:1-19), the story known to Jews and Christians respectively as the ‘binding’ or ‘sacrifice’ of Isaac.
According to the Rabbis, the near-death of Isaac is such a traumatic event that, upon learning what her husband almost did to their son, Sarah dies of grief. 
Taking up this midrashic insight, present-day commentators such as Rabbi Rona Shapiro note that it opens the door to fresh insights into Abraham’s relationship with God. If we look closely at the Genesis narrative which continues after Sarah’s death, we see that Abraham is never quite the same person again. Previously his faith was characterized by large-scale, public events. In pursuit of his God he travelled to foreign lands, fought wars and mounted a dramatic rescue for his kidnapped nephew. He negotiated with kings, argued with God about justice for the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah, and scaled a mountain to accomplish a horrifying feat for a faith-testing God.
But after Sarah’s death, his activity changes. It is predominantly domestic: he buries his wife, he arranges a marriage for Isaac, he marries again and attends to the future of his children in such a way as to prioritize Isaac. Perhaps, says Rabbi Shapira, Abraham—through Sarah’s death—has heard a different divine voice: not theophany on a mountain top but the transformative power of relationships. He has heard a truth which, at her moment of death, Sarah understood with terrifying clarity: there is no special holiness to be found gazing at the stars if your own child’s life is at stake. Holiness is right here: at home, in the joys and struggles of everyday family life.
Whether or not you favour this interpretation, I am sure you will agree that it raises challenging questions concerning the complexities of discerning God’s call… Food for thought, from inter-generational conversations around an ancient biblical text. •
1. Ecclesiastes Rabbah 9:7, §1
Bibliography: Bialik and Ravnitzky, eds., The Book of Legends (New York, 1992); Freedman and Simon, eds., Midrash Rabbah: Ecclesiastes (New York, 1983); Rona Shapiro, 'Chaye Sarah' in Goldstein, ed., The Women’s Torah Commentary (Woodstock, VT, 2000), 70-74. Scripture: NRSV.
© Teresa Pirola, 2011. www.lightoftorah.net
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